Adjustment Bureau (2011) The Movie

Is there really an AB, there's really know way know for sure.  however, i have come to realize that i need to balance everything I do between NEEDING and WANTING.  

This movie is about the plan their plan; and the person(s) in the plan not having control.  Everything happens by chance or fate.  What is Chance, who is Chance? Fate?
After watching the movie this link below became more clear to me.

I have listen to my heart & recognize the whispers.  Hear what they have to say.  But also at the same time to rational my needs with what I want.  I will always want a new pair of shoes, but I need them. Same thing for handbag, makeup, clothes, etc.  

I also learned to see things and also watch out for things. I spend a lot of time at work and I always just sit there and sit and watch, without responding.  I does take a lot of practice to see what going on around me but I’ve been working in the same place for 10 years & 10 hours a day you begin to see a pattern and instead of clashing with my boss(es) or co-workers I become very submissive.  In my eyes this is probably the strongest attribute I have because the attentive would be to insist on not working there by causing me to lose my job & losing my job is not an option I would like to see happen to me.  People might say I’m weak because I don't stand up to my bosses when we all feel like they can be pushing me around for no reason; but again you have to stop and think what’s really going on? Is it important for me to aggressive just so I can have a strong personality at work (risk losing my job at any given moment) or just be a busy little bee and just get the work done?  Either way, being submissive isn’t such a bad thing when that can just mean I’m great to work with & a team player.

But at the same time I do the same thing at home; but I defiantly need more practice but kids are very unpredictable.  I mostly comprise when it come to kids and things that happen at home.  I don't do it because I need to I do it because I want to do it.  It's the easiest way to solve the  problems that will develop when the kids fight over toys, when it come to eating, going to sleep by 8pm or even 9pm, etc. 

At the same time I know what I should be doing I just find it hard to make a move because I feel like something else is in the room pulling the strings.  Almost every night me & the kids fight about going to sleep. I always tell them it’s time; their reaction is to stay up even later.  I wonder  if that's nature way of saying they slept too long at school there’s no way they’re going to sleep until their tired.  But what can you do….

 I can talk about the kids & home life all day long.  The important thing I’m trying to talk about is to listen to your heart; but you need to open your eyes and mind to see what’s happening around you, & also at the same time find what makes you happy….

Good Luck

Do all Men cheat; only some? . . .

July to clarify that not all men cheat and that I have the greatest husband I could every ask for.
We fight and augre all the time but I realized its because it nature; i find the need to fight and cause problems to feel wanted and appreaciated because something in my childhood lead me to belive that fighting makes you feel appreaciated.  After reading Tyrese book i realized a lot of things and things i didnt know but wanted to know & again i really cant handle the truth. but i'm glad the truth was told to me & i'm glad  i have read the book; i'll be even more happier when i make changes in myself and follow them threw.

like eating the right foods; choicing better for myself and my family.
concentrating on what matters, Husband, Children, Myself, Work. 
everyone needs friends; but you have to choice the right 5 people...

After seeing this clip on Wendy, i just couldnt contain my angry, but at the same time i was very happy in realizing what i always had a question about. Tyrese is a man he's telling the truth, thats what i wanted to hear the truth. i just cant handle the truth after finding this out, i have to figure out how to deal with the sitution.

When he said "it’s expected" I was like I know this or feel this, but is that really true.

it basically comes down there's too much woman in the world and men (ration of 5:1) Mend have a variety and they chose the 1 woman they want to marry settle down with, then they have 4 other choices to just mess around with, whether they sleep with that person its really all up them, but they have the 4 other types of women because they can’t be satisfied with just with 1 woman.  No matter what you do, say, dress, cook or clean it’s not going to keep a man at home.  He has to want to stay there and not mess around.  But at the same time there's woman out that are willing to be with a married man because they get the best of that relationship. They get the great sex, the dinner or movie dates. WITH NO FIGHTING OR ARGUING.  As long as a man go out and get that from a woman with no complaints they will continue to cheat and thing there’s nothing wrong because he’s still coming home and dealing with his wife and making her happy.  At the same time the wife doesn't know this is going on or just hasn't had the time to process it because in her mind, she like “he won’t do that to me”. 

I don't want to cause woman to look at their relationship and cause problems. I just want to inform woman of what I have learned and that its not you, the problems your having at home have has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU OR WHAT YOUR NOT DOING.  Its just nature.  You can choice to accept the truth and/ or just move on and take care of yourself and your children... i reason why i say because i thought the problem was me then i realize its just nature; you can stop things in nature from happening.  But at the same time you just just accept it; you have to make choice.  & not ALL MEN CHEAT. 

this clip in what i found because Wendy didnt let Tyrese finish and i think this clip is very helpful.

"life is a menu, ...  whatever you ordered ... that whats going to be delivered" this comment again fucked me up on so many levels, but i had to think back to my childhood, past relationship, friends family and I was like OMG he finally broke it down for me.  it all makes sense now. TRUTH.

he breaks down everything and i think you need to look into your life and make changes.
you dont have to change over night; but you need to start with simple changes.

1- CHANGE YOURSELF - accept who you are; be strong & LOVE YOURSELF no matter what.
2- CHANGE YOUR MIND - dont start thinking about stuff that isnt there & cause yourself to go crazy. just be calm & SMILE stay happy.  Nothing is that serious
3- MAKE A LIST OF THE OTHER THINGS YOU WANT TO CHANGE- and take it easy and dont worry if you cant change things on the list just take your time and start again.

1 on thing before i end this blog.  IS TO THINK BEFORE YOU ACT & accept help where you can get, ask questions, talk to your inner circles dont keep things to yourself.  No matter how you feel before & after and just LOVE YOURSELF

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