Life is a Menu, What have you ordered?

Do all Men cheat; only some? . . .

July to clarify that not all men cheat and that I have the greatest husband I could every ask for.

We fight and augre all the time but I realized its because it nature; i find the need to fight and cause problems to feel wanted and appreaciated because something in my childhood lead me to belive that fighting makes you feel appreaciated.  After reading Tyrese book i realized a lot of things and things i didnt know but wanted to know & again i really cant handle the truth. but i'm glad the truth was told to me & i'm glad  i have read the book; i'll be even more happier when i make changes in myself and follow them threw.

like eating the right foods; choicing better for myself and my family.

concentrating on what matters, Husband, Children, Myself, Work. 

everyone needs friends; but you have to choice the right 5 people...

After seeing this clip on Wendy, i just couldnt contain my angry, but at the same time i was very happy in realizing what i always had a question about. Tyrese is a man he's telling the truth, thats what i wanted to hear the truth. i just cant handle the truth after finding this out, i have to figure out how to deal with the sitution.

When he said "it’s expected" I was like I know this or feel this, but is that really true.

it basically comes down there's too much woman in the world and men (ration of 5:1) Mend have a variety and they chose the 1 woman they want to marry settle down with, then they have 4 other choices to just mess around with, whether they sleep with that person its really all up them, but they have the 4 other types of women because they can’t be satisfied with just with 1 woman.  No matter what you do, say, dress, cook or clean it’s not going to keep a man at home.  He has to want to stay there and not mess around.  But at the same time there's woman out that are willing to be with a married man because they get the best of that relationship. They get the great sex, the dinner or movie dates. WITH NO FIGHTING OR ARGUING.  As long as a man go out and get that from a woman with no complaints they will continue to cheat and thing there’s nothing wrong because he’s still coming home and dealing with his wife and making her happy.  At the same time the wife doesn't know this is going on or just hasn't had the time to process it because in her mind, she like “he won’t do that to me”. 

I don't want to cause woman to look at their relationship and cause problems. I just want to inform woman of what I have learned and that its not you, the problems your having at home have has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU OR WHAT YOUR NOT DOING.  Its just nature.  You can choice to accept the truth and/ or just move on and take care of yourself and your children... i reason why i say because i thought the problem was me then i realize its just nature; you can stop things in nature from happening.  But at the same time you just just accept it; you have to make choice.  & not ALL MEN CHEAT. 

this clip in what i found because Wendy didnt let Tyrese finish and i think this clip is very helpful.

"life is a menu, ...  whatever you ordered ... that whats going to be delivered" this comment again fucked me up on so many levels, but i had to think back to my childhood, past relationship, friends family and I was like OMG he finally broke it down for me.  it all makes sense now. TRUTH.

he breaks down everything and i think you need to look into your life and make changes.

you dont have to change over night; but you need to start with simple changes.

1- CHANGE YOURSELF - accept who you are; be strong & LOVE YOURSELF no matter what.

2- CHANGE YOUR MIND - dont start thinking about stuff that isnt there & cause yourself to go crazy. just be calm & SMILE stay happy.  Nothing is that serious

3- MAKE A LIST OF THE OTHER THINGS YOU WANT TO CHANGE- and take it easy and dont worry if you cant change things on the list just take your time and start again.

1 on thing before i end this blog.  IS TO THINK BEFORE YOU ACT & accept help where you can get, ask questions, talk to your inner circles dont keep things to yourself.  No matter how you feel before & after and just LOVE YOURSELF. 

i just had to 

Review on Tyrese new Book HTGOYOW

Tyrese's book actually exceeded my expectations. Very informative, made me laugh & cry; had me at the edge of my seat. It made me want to pick up the phone & call him, bec I have so many questions about his childhood & the school system. I have a daughter that's 3 (going in 15) that has the same ADHD or ADD, which I think is another way of not dealing with the problem. & I always thought only boys had this problem & not girls. After reading that the chapters about his childhood I found I was making a lot of mistakes. I found that my child doesn't have a problem, I found that it’s me & I need to treat her different. I need to show her she not a bad kid, she doesn't need to go to a special school or class for her (energy) or (temper). I know I will keep her in the program for another year, just so the teachers don't have to deal with it, but once I get her in kindergarten I will tell them she's a good kid & she should be treated like one. I've seen bad kids & I know I have to start when she's young & tell her she's a good & wonderful kid bec if she hears that maybe she'll believe in herself enough to do the right thing.

This book should be given to everyone you hold dear to your heart and soul. I wish I can buy it & just hand them out to people I meet; people I feel like they need a step in the right direction and just need some enlighten. I've been telling so many people to buy it & they all say the same thing, I can’t find it at the store; or I want to but I'm in the middle of another book I need to finish; it’s the same thing I read before.... but I tell them it’s not & it’s a great book you won't be disappointed, but even if they do buy u want them to read it & start making positive changes their life the next minute. I'm sure they will & I need to get a few to give to my kids teachers & discuss it with my daughter therapist(s). just the chapters about the school system & who they come up with a diagnosis as ADHD or ADD. I never knew that other people out they had it so hard going up, but I've realized we all want what we can't have, but now there’s a way to change that.... I haven’t read the book in a few days to let it sink in and read other books to my kids; but I definitely want to finish it. I’m just hoping for many more books from him and hope he has the courage to keep writing, because a lot of people will want to read what he has to say.

Tyrese thank you for making me take a hard look at myself. My Allah bless you & always watch over you & keep you safe. accomplishments. Much love and respect.

(they (Amazon) wouldnt let me comment on the book because i didnt purchase online; so i decided to write a review myself in my blog).

How to Get Out of Your Own Way by Tyrese Gibson

Where to buy the book: 

http://www.amazon.com/How-Get-Out-Your-Own/dp/0446572225/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1304439609&sr=1-1

I don't want to give away any parts of the book, but I tell you that I should’ve brought 2 or 3 copies because it’s very hard to find and also I don't want to let it go.  I find myself wanting to read it 1 time from start to finish, then again with post-its and keep it handy as a survival guide.  These so much you can learn for this book and things you probably already know, just not putting it to use. Once you read this book and you go through your daily lives & I know you’re going to refer back to it the I did.  I believe this book is going to make a great collector item & maybe even make the top charts; but mostly importantly a lot of people are going to read it and learn for it and make their lives better.  

I have been reading this book for some time and the first 20 pages really have capture my heart & my mind.  Thank you so much for writing the book and also for finishing the book and not letting anything get in your way. 

You have made me look at myself very differently and I need to take a good look and change what needs to be changed.  These are good changes so I can get out of my way and achieve the goals I have made myself.  I also find that I cannot do it alone.  However, I am alone and I am the only one who knows what’s in my heart and what I need to do, but also I can ask for help when I need it and not be afraid to ask questions.   

This book is worth giving as a gift to someone who just needs a little push, because after reading it, I didn't realize that we all share the same goals and the same difficulties in life.  I just find it very educational & useful. Funny and sad all at the same time.  There so much more i want to say and share with you, but i want you to get the book and read it for yourselves, trust me you wont be disappointed.

Lots of love & peace.