Do all Men cheat; only some? . . .

July to clarify that not all men cheat and that I have the greatest husband I could every ask for.
We fight and augre all the time but I realized its because it nature; i find the need to fight and cause problems to feel wanted and appreaciated because something in my childhood lead me to belive that fighting makes you feel appreaciated.  After reading Tyrese book i realized a lot of things and things i didnt know but wanted to know & again i really cant handle the truth. but i'm glad the truth was told to me & i'm glad  i have read the book; i'll be even more happier when i make changes in myself and follow them threw.

like eating the right foods; choicing better for myself and my family.
concentrating on what matters, Husband, Children, Myself, Work. 
everyone needs friends; but you have to choice the right 5 people...

After seeing this clip on Wendy, i just couldnt contain my angry, but at the same time i was very happy in realizing what i always had a question about. Tyrese is a man he's telling the truth, thats what i wanted to hear the truth. i just cant handle the truth after finding this out, i have to figure out how to deal with the sitution.

When he said "it’s expected" I was like I know this or feel this, but is that really true.

it basically comes down there's too much woman in the world and men (ration of 5:1) Mend have a variety and they chose the 1 woman they want to marry settle down with, then they have 4 other choices to just mess around with, whether they sleep with that person its really all up them, but they have the 4 other types of women because they can’t be satisfied with just with 1 woman.  No matter what you do, say, dress, cook or clean it’s not going to keep a man at home.  He has to want to stay there and not mess around.  But at the same time there's woman out that are willing to be with a married man because they get the best of that relationship. They get the great sex, the dinner or movie dates. WITH NO FIGHTING OR ARGUING.  As long as a man go out and get that from a woman with no complaints they will continue to cheat and thing there’s nothing wrong because he’s still coming home and dealing with his wife and making her happy.  At the same time the wife doesn't know this is going on or just hasn't had the time to process it because in her mind, she like “he won’t do that to me”. 

I don't want to cause woman to look at their relationship and cause problems. I just want to inform woman of what I have learned and that its not you, the problems your having at home have has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU OR WHAT YOUR NOT DOING.  Its just nature.  You can choice to accept the truth and/ or just move on and take care of yourself and your children... i reason why i say because i thought the problem was me then i realize its just nature; you can stop things in nature from happening.  But at the same time you just just accept it; you have to make choice.  & not ALL MEN CHEAT. 

this clip in what i found because Wendy didnt let Tyrese finish and i think this clip is very helpful.

"life is a menu, ...  whatever you ordered ... that whats going to be delivered" this comment again fucked me up on so many levels, but i had to think back to my childhood, past relationship, friends family and I was like OMG he finally broke it down for me.  it all makes sense now. TRUTH.

he breaks down everything and i think you need to look into your life and make changes.
you dont have to change over night; but you need to start with simple changes.

1- CHANGE YOURSELF - accept who you are; be strong & LOVE YOURSELF no matter what.
2- CHANGE YOUR MIND - dont start thinking about stuff that isnt there & cause yourself to go crazy. just be calm & SMILE stay happy.  Nothing is that serious
3- MAKE A LIST OF THE OTHER THINGS YOU WANT TO CHANGE- and take it easy and dont worry if you cant change things on the list just take your time and start again.

1 on thing before i end this blog.  IS TO THINK BEFORE YOU ACT & accept help where you can get, ask questions, talk to your inner circles dont keep things to yourself.  No matter how you feel before & after and just LOVE YOURSELF

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Anonymous said...

I agree with a lot of the things Tyrese said in the second video you posted. You must know what you are ordering out of your life. That is why I believe people need quiet time to get centered and think as opposed to simply reacting all the time. It is important to know what you want out of life. If you never have a minute to think, you can't figure it out. We'll discuss this more once I finish Tyrese's book. :)